Oils are no Substitute for Actual Medicine

Sorry for not making a post yesterday. It was my mom's birthday and I never really got the chance to sit down and write so I will post the two memes that I ended up posting yesterday and the meme that is for today!

He was so cute I had to post two of him!

Okay, now for today's post I wanted to talk a little bit about something that actually happened to a friend of mine that has vasculitis that attacked her kidneys resulting in her needing a new one. She started a facebook page to help her achieve this goal and is using it to document her journey through dialysis and on.

Naturally, a public facebook page is going to get all sorts of people that comment on it, but one person left me floored by their response to one of her posts. They actually told her that they had some oils that would take care of her. Now, I don't know if they were just saying that the oils might help alleviate some pain or if they were actually telling her that instead of a new kidney she should just take some Frankincense.

The sad thing is, while a healthy person might that a suggestion that an oil would work as a cure for us is so silly that no one would do it, but you would be wrong about that. I know many people with chronic illnesses post about their experiences, I know I have posted about my experiences with having people tell me about the so called "miracle cures" they know of. These suggestions are so common there's a square for it on the chronic illness BINGO card.

While I understand that the people that make such suggestions are coming from a place of love and aren't trying to be terrible, the truth of the matter is, they are. When you suggest alternative treatments to a person when they aren't asking for or about them you are derailing what the person is saying about their medical treatment.

When people give me these suggestions I tend to hear one of two things. This,
                        "I am not a medical doctor, nor have I any experience in or with the medical field aside from going in sometimes when I have a cold but I know better than you and a doctor because I scraped my knee once and this stuff worked on it so it can obviously work for everything else out there 100% of the time."

or

                         "I am not a medical doctor, nor have I any experience in or with the medical field aside from going in sometimes when I have a cold but I know better than you or a doctor because I believe in all sorts of conspiracy theories including the idea that medical science is actually a business and they want you to have to keep paying them for services. BIGPHARMABIGPHARMABIGPHARMA!"

But at least the first one is coming from a place of love: it worked for them, or at least they thought it worked for them, so it will work for you too. I'm not sure where the other one is coming from, maybe love that took a detour on the fear bus into conspiracy theory town.

The problem is, these statements do harm. They work to try and convince people that they don't have to listen to their doctors. If you have any sort of chronic illness it can become tiresome to take all the medications and do what you need to do to stay healthy; so depending on when someone makes these sorts of suggestions to you it can be really tempting to try it. You are telling us that we should take our hope away from what has been proven to work and place it in an unverified, untested long shot. You are also essentially telling us that we don't know what we're talking about when it comes to our illness and that you, who have no experience with it and more than likely know next to nothing about it, know better than we do. Seriously. Just stop making these suggestions unless you have specifically been asked about some supplement!

The incidence with my friend, though, that lead to the creation of today's Vasculitis Awareness Meme!

Random Health Advice From a Booth at the Farmer's Market

This is kind of a funny story, if only because it's become such a common experience for me that it's sad.

On Saturday, my mom, grandmother, and I decided to wander around the local Farmer's Market just to scout out the local goods. Besides all of the usual home baked goods, hand crafted items, and vegetables there was a booth advertising free nerve scans. I was kind of curious so as my mom and grandmother looked at the booth next door which had some really amazing handmade jewelry I would have myself a nerve scan.

To start off, the had me fill in a paper with lists of ailments that you were supposed to circle if you had them. I had all of them, as expected for someone with a systemic autoimmune disorder. Wherein the lady running the booth told me that she just wouldn't live with all those problems. I told her, I don't either. That's what I see doctors for and what I take medications for, duh.

They asked me what exactly it is that I have and I told them Wegener's Granulomatosis. Now, I'm used to the very blank stares that this disease gets, but for this lady her blank stare was immediately followed by a determined look because she figured that what she was promoting could absolutely cure me.

She put the wand up to my neck and began the scan, which, as I expected, lit up like some demented form of Christmas Tree. You know, when you don't have decent veins things get kind of starved for essentials. After looking at the scan the lady then starts spouting off about how they can do back adjustments to fix all of my problems because pinched nerves were probably what was causing the Wegener's. All I could think was, did you miss the part where I said it was an autoimmune disorder, you know, kind of like Lupus. You're back adjustment is not going to cure something that has a genetic component. She wanted me to go in to her clinic and get X-rays and all sorts of weird stuff.

I never even saw a sign on her booth advertising her as a chiropractor or anything of the sort. I politely told her that I would have to think about it, even though I have no plans to call her back or answer the phone if she calls me.

Sadly, this is a common occurrence when you have a chronic illness. Everyone seems to think they can "cure" you and they tend to ignore the whole part about it being a CHRONIC illness. I'm not against alternative methods, but if you choose to look into them, you really need to have a critical eye. Be wary of the people that claim to have a cure; more than likely they do not and are just trying to get money from you. They probably don't care that they could potentially be causing you damage or even killing you. If you have a doctor that you trust, which is an absolute must, bring anything you want to try in regards to your health up with them.